Category Archives: Memoir Project

Be There: Love It Enough

 

Focus on the ‘out breath’ while pushing gently and birthing your in-born gifts. ~ inspired by Karen McMillan’s Stillness Meditation

Beginnings happen again and again. We see beginnings in nature. In our waking lives. In our night dreams. In our experiences and the stories that we share.

I gave birth to my surrogate son, Bobby, 30 years ago in March. I haven’t heard a word from his adoptive mom or dad in those 30 years. Until now. This year, his birth year, he’s gently pushing me toward a re-union with him and with my Self.

He called me about a week ago and we talked for a couple of hours on the phone. After our conversation I realize there are so many opportunities for new beginnings. So many opportunities for healing and writing new stories.

  • I am at the start of….
  • I am writing a new story and…
  • I see so many opportunities to create and…
  • I notice that….

Breathe in and breathe out gently. Its snowing here and I’m reminded that,

Snow is a blank slate.

Stillness is not only a stopping or slowing down. Stillness happens as we move through our day if we are open to its quality and beauty.

As you play and create, as you write, and as you move ahead through your day and into evening remain open to love and new beginnings.

When she was there, she did not love it enough. ~inspired by Monday morning story


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FAQ: 21-Day ‘Start Your Memoir’ Challenge

Thank you for participating in the 21 Day ‘Start Your Memoir’ Challenge.

PLEASE NOTE**You will receive 2 separate emails each day of the 21-day Challenge– (Prompts & Blog Posts)

Not a participant? Wanna play? You can join here. (It’s free.)

The following info will help you get the most out of the experience, and hopefully answer your questions.

If you still have questions about the challenge, please ask in the comments below.

I suspect you may be here because you are missing some of the writing prompts sent by email. *JUST BREATHE*

Missing Emails

It’s a frustrating fact that email can go randomly missing, or not be delivered.

Here are some things you can do improve email deliverability:

Add my email address to your address book:

maryalice@playequalspeace.com

this will train your email to go into your inbox, instead of spam or elsewhere.

Not sure how to do this? No worries. It only takes a minute, and this online guide (with pictures for your email provider!) shows you how.

Gmail users: Check your promotions tab or spam folder. If my email landed there, drag the email into your inbox.

  1. If you don’t see your daily prompt email:
    Please check your spam folder, or the promotions tab if you use gmail. 99% of the time it’s hiding in there. 
    If you don’t find confirmation after checking junk and promotions, it’s possible the email address was typed in wrong. That happens a lot, especially when typing on your phone, etc. So try signing up again, and triple-checking your email address. If the the sign up button on your device of choice isn’t working–Try signing up from a different device.
  2. Make sure my email address is in your address book, instructions are above.
  3. Join the 21-Day ‘Start Your Memoir’ Facebook Group – there are lots of other group members who will be happy to help out and share missing prompts. Just ask!
  4. Visit the Play=Peace Facebook page, where I share the blog posts with journal prompts. You don’t need to be a Facebook user to see my page.To make sure you can see all of my Facebook posts, Click the LIKE button, and when you hover over the FOLLOWING button on the top menu, make sure SEE FIRST is checked.
  5. Pop over to my ‘Create a Life that Comes from the Heart’ blog, where you’ll find each day’s blog post & journal prompts.

Important: Treat the course emails like a gift card. If you lose them, they won’t be replaced.

It is recommended you save these emails, print them out if you want to make sure you have access to all 21 images & prompts or purchase:

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*Thank you* for understanding that I am sharing this challenge with lots of other people and am a mentor, creative coach, writer, and artist without a staff — so I won’t respond to requests to replace missing 21-Day ‘Start Writing Your Memoir’ Challenge emails.

I want you to get each and every prompt, but sometimes email just isn’t delivered.

That’s why I’ve got you covered by posting on my blog, in the 21-day ‘Start Your Memoir’ Facebook Group and on the Play=Peace Facebook Page

Fair enough? 

We limit screen time in my family which leaves us more time to play and create in a variety of ways!!

Supplies:
All you need to begin is a notebook and something to write with.

Of course, you can embellish with crayons, paint, drawings, photographs. Some great resources can be found on Pinterest ‘Visual Journaling’ Boards.

The ‘Create a Life that Comes from the Heart’ Blog:

There’s a blog post to accompany each of the images and prompts. You will receive each day’s blog post in a separate email. Print, add to your Pinterest boards, or Share as you desire.

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Download, printout, and use like a playbook or cut out and add to any notebook.

Here’s what you can expect from joining the 21-Day ‘Start Writing Your Memoir’ Challenge:

Registering for this project automagically gets you on my ‘Play Notes’ list.

I send out play-based, depth-oriented ‘play notes’, blog posts, and resources by email.

As a subscriber you will receive information on working-with-me as a mentor and creative coach, workshops and events, and Play=Peace Shop products that are being offered. ‘Play Notes’ subscribers are the first to hear about early bird discounts.

Sharing & Connection

You are invited to share your experience in the ‘Start Writing Your Memoir’ Challenge in the comments on the ‘Create a Life that Comes from the Heart’ Blog.

Use the hashtag #StartYourMemoir in your blog and social media posts so we can find each other and build our creative community.

Join our closed FB Group for our Challenge here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/startyourmemoir/

Questions? Comments? I hope so!

If you want to share about your experience or ask questions, please comment on the ‘Create a Life that Comes from the Heart’ blog or go to the Facebook group to post.

If you have unanswered questions – add them in the comments on this page.

I’m open to questions as you participate in this project. Due to number of participants, I kindly ask for two considerations:

1. Please ask your questions in the comments area of the blog posts (this will avoid questions getting lost in email)

2. I won’t answer each question personally, but instead will answer questions in our 21-Day ‘Start Your Memoir’ Challenge Facebook group.

Scrolled Down Without Reading? 

Important: Treat the daily challenge emails like a gift card. If you lose it, it won’t be replaced.

As I won’t be able to answer requests to replace missing emails, so please check out the above options for getting prompts you may be missing.

*Thank you* for understanding that I am sharing this challenge with a large group and am a playful mentor, creative coach, writer, and artist without a staff. 

Yes, I totally repeated some stuff in here, because. You know.

Thank you again for being here.

The 21-Day ‘Start Writing Your Memoir’ Challenge is my playful passion, and I’m so thrilled to be sharing it with you!

Memoir Project: Dusting Myself Off, Putting my High Boots on & Going Back In!

After a lot of procrastination I have published three excerpts from my memoir in revision. I’ve also shared several writer’s notes over the last few days. You can find Memoir Project entries HERE and a couple Writer’s Notes HERE

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I had full intentions this morning to continue to write and revise my memoir’s manuscript this morning but I was stopped in my tracks by an event yesterday that kept me awake last night. It all started with:

You Should Have…

After tossing and turning in bed and making every effort to disavow what is roaming around inside of me I decided to put my high boots on and step back Into the arena. The arena where I bring my vulnerability and courage.

Vulnerability is the most accurate measure of courage. ~Brene Brown

I realized this morning as I sipped my coffee that I have been in that same arena immeasurable times in my life and that over the last few days I have been standing naked and left my armor behind. 

I’m showing up in a big way.

and so are all of my anxieties and concern about being killed on the field as I share my story and who I am. The real deal with no armor to shield me.

Yesterday I stepped out and was hit by the the same criticisms and shame that have kept me from writing and sharing what I am creating over the course of my lifetime. I asked myself this morning,

How is this critic similar to other critics that have voiced their disapproval of how I look, act, what I do, who I am??

I came across a photo of Mary Alice (circa 1954). I am just over a year old, standing with my Easter bonnet, dress, and coat. Looking ahead in a focused way. Even then I had a sense of who I am suppose to be and started to give away the parts of myself that didn’t fit that ideal.

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Today I’m breathing deeply in a fetal position on the floor, dusting myself off, and continuing to create and share. On this Autumnal Equinox I feel like I am falling, breaking down. As I continue to play and create my life and life’s work I give myself permission to stay home for stretches of time and also to explore outside the edges of my experience.

I will continue to create and share here, on the Play=Peace blog, and on Medium knowing that as, Brene Brown, says,

if you step into the arena, you’re going to get your ass kicked

Every one of you has a Critic’s seat reserved in that same arena. See you there. Will you be fully armored or nakedly sharing your vulnerability and gifts with us all?

Memoir Project: The Next Chapter

Summer has brought with it attention to healing and recovery. What supports me is injured. I’m keeping what benefits me and letting go of what no longer serves. I’ve been artificially holding up my upper torso. Dropping into my natural stance and walk makes me feel much more at ease.

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I’ve been holding on for almost 30 years. Three decades reminding me of the mantra of the rosary–a prayer.

I’m praying, my prayer is one of release.

I am writing in two columns as I journal. The second queue includes feelings and body intelligence that I note as I write freely.

Blow out as you push, don’t hold your breath

Holding myself up

Can you imagine holding something up for almost 30 years? Well, I did just that. That kind of holding can eventually show up as pain in the hips and legs. What supports me started to break down.

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Dropping Down & Pushing

Walking nearby our campsite my hips dropped and I felt a release. An awareness washed over me of just how long I have been moving ahead in a way that injures

Since the moment when I passed my newborn son from my arms into the arms of his adoptive mother I have been…

  • holding myself up
  • holding myself back
  • unable to settle into a position that allows for ease of birthing.

I was not going to relax and move into a position where I was likely to give away so much of myself again.

Giving Birth

I am in another 7 year cycle. Exploring patterns:

1-7: childhood, play!

7-14: adolescence, play!

14-21: marriage, birth of my daughter

21-28: birth of my son and daughter, back to school

28-35: surrogate pregnancy, masters program

35-42: birth of my surrogate son, doctoral program, new relationship, kids leave home, move, play!

42-49: play! move, breast cancer, Mom’s breast cancer, re-marriage

49-56: play! move, Michael’s cancer returns, surgery and treatment; Mom’s death

56-63: play! Dad’s death, gave away my son at his wedding

63-70: play! new chapter!

My ability to hold on is amazing. Will I be able to release what has been holding me back? It’s exciting to think about a new chapter in my life.

What’s next?

for me? for you?